Players: Husband and wife.
Activists: Both.
Setting: Home or hotel.
Aim: To arouse unconscious, unspoken judgments.
Game Plan: This is a simple game, but its results can be profound. It is for the narcissistic couple who started off in a twin-ship or idealizing transference but have drifted apart. Sometimes, in such cases, either there is little sex or it is rushed and orgasm comes too quickly or not at all. Sometimes one or the other feels disillusioned—even contemptuous toward the mate. Sometimes a quiet (and sometimes a loud) rage is expressed. Sometimes envy or possessiveness gets in the way of effective relating: The wife envies the husband’s job and mobility, and the husband is possessive of the wife.
During a weekend evening or other relaxed occasion, the husband and wife undress and entwine themselves face to face. A good position for this game is for the husband to lie across a bed with his back and head propped on pillows, and the wife to straddle him. After he enters her and they are one, they should gaze into one another’s eyes. Eye contact is important.
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